Book One is live

The Don’t Do That Series

What if the problem was never a lack of willpower?

Don’t Do That is a growing series exploring the patterns beneath the behaviours we cannot seem to stop.

Each book takes a different presenting problem and traces it back to where it actually started. Food, alcohol, overwork, relationships. The specific behaviour is rarely the actual problem. It is where an older, unmet need learned to express itself.

Fourteen years of clinical practice, across REBT, CBT, ACT and trauma informed work, built the pattern recognition behind every book in the series. They are written to be recognised rather than believed, which is why they read like being understood rather than being told.

The behaviour is not the problem. It is the place an older, unmet need learned to speak.

The model at the centre of it

Every book in the series runs on the same underlying reading of behaviour. The first one names it.

The original clinical model

The Food Triangle

An application of the Drama Triangle to eating behaviour. Three roles you rotate through with food without noticing, each one a strategy rather than a character flaw, each one traceable to a specific attachment pattern and a specific unmet need.

Learn the model, then learn how to step out of it, in the Reformed Triangle.

Read the model

The books

One presenting problem per book, each taken through the same structure. The titles are set. The rest follows in order.

Don’t Eat That

Book One. Rewiring the triangle between food, fear and self. The full model, the clinical thinking behind it, and the personal history that produced it.

Live now

Don’t Drink That

In development

Don’t Date That Person

In development

Don’t Go There

In development

Don’t Say That

In development

The workbook suite

The books explain the pattern. The workbooks are where you do something about it. Each one stands on its own and each one fits the others.

  • The Food Triangle WorkbookThe full model, from Drama Triangle to Reformed Triangle.

    Live

  • The Attachment Style WorkbookWhere each voice learned its part.

    Built

  • The Food Guilt JournalWorking with the voice that arrives afterwards.

    Built

  • The Boundary Scripts WorkbookWhat to actually say, and what it costs to say it.

    Built

  • Self Compassion Practice

    Planned

  • Beyond the Noise Workbook

    Planned

Start where the series starts

Don’t Eat That is Book One, and the Food Triangle is the model everything after it is built on. It is the shortest route into the whole thing.

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