The Don’t Do That Series
The books explain the pattern. These are where you do something about it.
Reading about a pattern and changing it are two different jobs. Every workbook here is built for the second one.
They are written to be used rather than admired. Prompts with room to write, steps in the order the work was designed to be done, and tools you can reach for in the moment rather than afterwards.
Each one stands on its own, and each one fits the others. You do not need the whole set to start.
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The full model
£11.99
The complete journey through the model, from the Drama Triangle to the Reformed Triangle. The three roles, where each one learned its part, what it is actually asking for, and how it reforms into Coach, Champion, and Survivor or Thriver.
Includes the Noise Log, a running daily practice, and the journals that sit behind the 12 Week Programme.
Start here if you are new
£2
The short one. A way to work out which of the three voices is speaking, in the moment, before the moment has passed.
If you are not sure whether this model describes you, this is the cheapest way to find out. It costs less than the thing you were about to eat instead.
You cannot think your way out of a pattern you have never written down.
Written and built, being prepared for release. Each one takes a single piece of the model and goes deeper into it than the main workbook has room for.
In preparation
Where each voice learned its part. The early pattern underneath the eating pattern, and what it was originally for.
Coming soon
In preparation
Working with the voice that arrives afterwards. The verdict, the rule broken, and the harsh self talk that closes the loop and starts it again.
Coming soon
In preparation
What to actually say, and what it costs to say it. Written scripts for the conversations that keep the pattern fed.
Coming soon
On the map, not yet written.
The daily work of speaking to yourself the way a Champion would.
Planned
What comes after the food noise quietens, and how to keep it quiet.
Planned
The Food Triangle page explains the three roles and how the rotation works. It costs nothing and it will tell you within a few minutes whether this describes you.
Small, practical, and enough to test whether naming the voice actually changes anything for you. Most people know within a week.
If it did change something, this is the whole model with the room to work it properly. It is also the book the 12 Week Programme runs on, so nothing is wasted if you join a group later.
Everything in this series rests on one idea. The behaviour is not the problem. It is the place an older, unmet need learned to speak.
Psychiatry deals specifically with diagnosing and treating mental, behavioral, and emotional ailments. The primary purpose is to help people cope with issues and stress in their environment that make it challenging to lead a normal and healthy lifestyle.